A Little Bit About Me
As Salam alakium, my name is Aisha reverted in 2001. I have lived in Egypt and Algeria. I have traveled to other countries and I love cruising!! I love travel Moroccan food is my favorite! I recently relocated to Oklahoma from Key west Florida where I worked as Human Resources manager at a hotel & marina. I am currently in university doing my PhD in HR Management. I also graduated law school for Human Resource Employment Law. Currently I work as Senior HR Manager in Sports and Entertainment. Im not interested in a persons past and I make no apologies for my past. I’ve learned and grown and use my experience to help others. If you have any questions about it I’m very transparent and open to discussion. I love the ocean, beach, snorkeling, kayaking, boating and most recently I have developed a love for skydiving! My children are grown, and live away from me. I’m thinking about marriage!!!! My ideal match would be someone 50 or older! I’m not interested in long distance relationship. I may be open to relocating it depends on where and if I can transfer with my company. I prefer someone who lives within a few hours drive from me or who can relocate. I’m very adventurous and looking for someone fun who is not afraid to live life and do things like jump out a plane! I am open to polygyny however I am not uneducated or inexperienced on the subject and I would never give up one single right Allah swt gave me. I will protect myself and look out for my interest better than any wali.
Polygyny, Islam, and the Harm of Secret Marriages
Polygyny in Islam is a permitted structure, but it is also a regulated one. Allah did not allow it as a playground for men who lack integrity, compassion, or accountability. Yet today, too many men misuse this allowance to prey on vulnerable women—especially reverts who have no blood-relative wali to protect their rights.
There is a growing pattern that needs to be addressed openly:
Men seeking second wives in secret.
Not out of genuine intention, not out of justice, not out of taqwa—but out of convenience and desire. These men hide their marriages from their first wives, their families, and their communities, turning what should be a transparent, honorable contract into a secret arrangement that leaves the woman isolated and unprotected.
Targeting reverts with no real wali.
A wali is meant to safeguard a woman’s interests, ensure her rights are honored, and verify the man’s character. When a revert has no Muslim family, some men exploit that gap. They choose “walis” who are strangers, uninvested, or easily manipulated—men who do not know her, do not care for her, and do not advocate for her.
Expecting her to surrender her Islamic rights.
Too many reverts are pressured to accept:
• No mahr or a symbolic one that holds no real value
• No financial support
• No equal time, attention, or emotional presence
• No transparency or public acknowledgment
• No stability or long-term plan
This is not polygyny.
This is not Islam.
This is exploitation dressed in religious language.
Islam honors women. Exploiters do not.
A second wife is not a secret.
She is not a placeholder.
She is not a convenience.
She is not a woman stripped of her rights because she is new to the faith.
Allah commands justice.
The Prophet ﷺ warned against harming women.
Marriage in Islam is a covenant of mercy, protection, and responsibility—not manipulation.
Reverts deserve real protection.
They deserve:
• A wali who advocates for them
• A mahr that reflects respect
• A husband who provides financially and emotionally
• A marriage that is public, transparent, and dignified
• Equal treatment if polygyny is involved
If a man cannot meet these standards, he has no business seeking a second wife.
We must speak on this.
Not to shame polygyny—because it is a valid and beautiful structure when practiced correctly.
But to call out the misuse of it, especially against women who enter Islam with sincerity, trust, and hope.
Silence protects predators.
Truth protects women.
Written by a former second wife Keisha Autrey (Aisha)
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What I Am Looking For
I prefer someone in their 50’s to
Mid 60’s. If they have children they should be adults. I’m not interested in anyone with younger children, or anyone looking to have children. Although I am
Great with kids and I am the best grandmother!. If you are in Oklahoma Texas or Florida this would be ideal. Personality and character are more important to me than looks. Although If you’re tall that’s a plus! I am considered tall for a woman. I am a beautiful woman inside and out! Please no one who practices extreme Islam. I’ve been down that path, no thanks! Moderate and balanced life works best for me. Someone fun laid back and easy to get along with. Must be clean! No smoking and love the beach and going out on and in the water!
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